‘To help! My son’s teacher wants us to cut his long hair so he doesn’t get bullied’
Luckily, times are changing when it comes to stereotypical hairstyles and clothes for boys and girls. A growing number of the boys now wear their hair longwith the offspring of many celebrities among them.
Overall, society has become more tolerant of boys with long hair, but once in a while, something is happening that makes us feel like we’re back to square one.
A mum has taken to popular Mumnet’s Talk forum for advice, admitting she was ‘very upset’ after her son’s teacher suggested she cut her long hair to avoid being victimized ‘intimidation.
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Wife, who was called calmamawrote that her five-year-old son and has always been a sensitive boy who gravitates towards girls and has traditionally feminine interests, as well as very masculine ones.
“He has long curly hair and big blue eyes. [and] has been mistaken for a girl since birth, even though she wears typical ‘boy’ clothes,” she wrote.
“His teacher just said she’s worried he’s being bullied because apparently the other kids at school think he’s a girl. She suggested he cut his hair. “
While she said her husband “is totally okay with it,” the wife said she wasn’t, “purely because he doesn’t want to!”
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She added that her husband had pushed her son to cut his hair “several times and he just didn’t want to”.
“I also don’t think he should have to ‘masculinize’ his interests just because he may or may not be bullied.
“At the end of the day, I’m obviously horrified that he’s being bullied, but I find it hard to understand why he should change who he is to fit some kind of stereotype,” he said. she declared, adding that she didn’t know what to do.
“Am I unreasonable to think this is crazy? It’s 2022. What the f—?”
She then added in a response to those who had suggested her son tie his hair up at school that it was ‘always tied up in a bun’ and repeated that the teacher had not said her son was being bullied, “just that she’s worried he’ll do it”. be.”
“But where does it stop? He cuts his hair. Then he can’t like rainbows and unicorns. Then he learns that he has to put aside his feelings and his interests because it doesn’t fit the mould,” she wrote. “I also would have thought the teacher could take some responsibility for educating the class about diversity. None of his male or female friends outside of school bullied him because of his hair.”
The woman’s post has so far received hundreds of comments, almost all in favor of leaving the boy’s long tresses alone. Many also reported their own positive experiences.
“I wouldn’t care until/if it happens. My son has long hair and hasn’t been bullied,” one commenter wrote.
“The nephew always had medium-length hair all through primary school and was never bullied about it. He’s a keen footballer and many of his heroes have a similar hairstyle, qu ‘they tie up to play,’ wrote another.
“My son is five years old. He has long hair. His first week at school made a new best friend who thought he was a girl. [He] corrected him. No problem. Classmates thinking your son is a girl are very, very far from being bullied,” another said.
Many have challenged the teacher’s position and approach to bullying.
“Is your son being bullied right now? Having long hair on boys isn’t that unusual. I might have a chat with the teacher about why she thinks he’s more appropriate for your son to cut his hair to prevent bullying rather than deal with bullying appropriately, if it happens,” one said.
“What, she’s afraid he might be bullied and force him to comply for his own mental comfort? What a silly woman,” said another.
“I would like to know a lot more about how the teacher is going to tackle bullies and a lot less about your son having to conform,” said another.
“The teacher should talk to the class about the fact that boys and girls have the same opportunity to do their hair the way they want, to play with what they like and to accept that in others too. If the school can’t get that message across properly with five-year-olds, I really wouldn’t be impressed.”
Some people had a different view.
“I think if he has really strong feelings about his hair, obviously don’t force him to cut it, but make sure it’s coming from him, not you. Fitting in is really important for kids. . Arguably as important as being yourself.” “so don’t underestimate him,” one said.
“I would do anything to stop my kid from being bullied. If that means shorter hair, so be it,” wrote another, before being pushed back.
“What if they were harassed because they didn’t have expensive sneakers? Or if they wore glasses? Red hair? Because their mother is fat?” replied one commenter.
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