Cut through binary | Radio-Canada News
Knowledge of Nillin
Nillin Lore (they / them), a 35-year-old woman living in Saskatoon (Treaty 6), feels safer attending one of the city’s queer and transgender hair salons than walking the streets of the city. city.
“I once had a haircut … where when I sat in the chair I ended up having to attend a sermon where I was told about God and my soul and my relationships not only with my other queer partner, but also polyamorous. and how to be non-monogamous is a sinner’s way of life.
“So here I am, vulnerable with a person with scissors on his head, for I had to sit there and be told I was contemptible and disgusting.”
“As soon as I walked into High Noon [Barber Shop in Saskatoon] … I was already very, very, very nervous because I was in that dress. … I must have walked a few blocks before, and I had a lot of people staring at me, a lot of people pointing fingers. … And I walked in and the environment completely changed almost immediately. It was literally very welcoming, assertive – no judgment, no staring… And in the end, when I looked at myself in the mirror, it was all tidy. I felt really, really, really rock and beautiful.
“As soon as I get out of the building and go down the steps, that red truck goes by and I hear this guy come out the window and he shouts, ‘What is this? Is that a guy in a dress?
“And he and his boyfriend are just booing and screaming and laughing about it, and they curse my way.” And I walk a few more blocks… and then it happened again.
“So it was devastating, really, honestly.”
“Hair salons are always described as the boys’ club, the men’s chair – really awkward conversations, maybe about non-consensual exchanges or toxic masculinity, which I always find extremely uncomfortable to have to try to stay. sitting down. But there is none of that here [at High Noon], and it’s really, really wonderful.
“For other queer, trans, and non-binary people who seek safe spaces and feel uncomfortable going out in public, it’s really, really hard and I understand. But all of you who choose to step out into the world as you are, this is incredibly important, and I see you.
“Others see you. And if you need help getting to a location … find a friend to go to a barber with you. ”